What kind of person are you trying to prove you are?
The bigger question is who are you trying to prove it to?
Instead of focusing on your own needs, feelings and emotions, so many of us are making life choices and changing our behaviour trying to earn an excellence certificate to be a certain kind of person. Parents, peers, colleagues or family. Some of us are carefully calibrating who we are and searching those faces and silently saying to ourselves — Am I smart? Am I beautiful? Am I Enough? So exhausting!!
While doing this, all we are doing is distancing ourselves from our true nature. We do not find true belonging, acceptance or approval. We find more self-doubt. We unknowingly reinforce the idea that how we are and who we are isn’t good enough.
It takes courage to be different in a world that shames paths that do not take the normal course of life. It requires immense strength to focus on our needs and aspirations and not fit into other peoples measure of ‘success’. Know that you are amazing and worthy in all your forms. And when you take up space and be you; you make space for all of us to do the same.